When faced with planning a loved one’s funeral, it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed and as though there are many different details to consider. From arranging transport and choosing music to readings for the service, of course, you want to make sure all the decisions you make are perfect.
That’s why, with the help of The Elms Funeral Services, experts in putting together your Funeral Plan in Puxton, we have written the below guide to help you understand the process of planning a funeral to therefore ensure that it represents your loved one in the most perfect way possible.
Starting to Plan the Funeral
When you’re starting to plan a funeral, you should firstly:
- Check whether there are any funeral instructions in the will,
- Check whether there any savings or funeral plans in place to pay for the funeral,
- If not, decide how to pay for the funeral.
It’s common for people to leave instructions in their will, or talk through their wishes with a loved one.
Choosing a Funeral Director
When you are organising a funeral, it’s recommended that you decide whether or not you’d like to work with a funeral director. Of course, this can feel like an incredibly vulnerable time, which is why many choose to work with a funeral director.
A funeral director will be able to take care of the deceased, the funeral proceedings and the organisation of any parties. What’s more, they’ll also be able to give you the general guidance and support you need.
Choose Either a Burial or Cremation
The most common types of funerals are burials and cremations.
The price of these different options can vary. Typically, a burial is generally more expensive, and a direct cremation is typically a more affordable option.
You may find that your loved one has planned for a specific type of service in either their funeral plan or will.
Choose a Coffin
There are many different types of coffins available for you to choose from.
Typically, made from either solid wood, chipboard, metal or other biodegradable materials, coffins are available in a wide range of materials. Many can even be personalised with images.
To choose the right size image, you will need to know the deceased height and weight.
Should you choose to work with a funeral director, they will be able to show you their range of coffins.
The Cost of the Funeral
It’s no secret that some funerals can be expensive. The basic funeral costs should include;
- Funeral director’s fees,
- Doctor’s fees,
- Clergy or officiate fees,
- The coffin.
If the deceased has taken out a funeral plan, you may find that the cost of the funeral has been covered. On the other hand, if they had a life insurance policy, this could help with the cost of the funeral. Finally, if they held some money in their estate, this may cover it and the executor of the estate may take care of paying for the funeral.
Should you find yourself struggling to pay for the funeral, make sure to ask a funeral director for advice. They’ll be able to point you in the right direction and give you the reassurance you need.
Some charities may be able to help you and you may be eligible for government funeral support.
Arrange the Funeral
There are many types of funeral services that you’ll be able to choose from, including a traditional church ceremony, a cremation or a woodland celebration. You’ll find that there is something to suit everyone.
When organising a traditional funeral, the coffin will likely be taken to the service in a hearse, followed by friends and families. However, you don’t have to book a hearse because it is traditional. Many choose more personal transportation such as tractors and fire engines.
Order of Service
Then, an order of service will need to be planned. Typically a printed booklet, given to people as they arrive at the funeral, the order of service will include the outline of the service including songs, hymns and readings.
Flowers or Donations
Flowers can be a beautiful tribute to your loved one, yet friends and families may also want to send flowers to pay their respects. Yet, some choose to ask those attending the funeral to donate to charity instead of giving flowers.
Pick the Funeral Music and Readings
Funeral music and readings are a good way to make the service much more personal. For example, if your loved one was religious, you could choose their favourite hymns and bible passages.
Maybe they were a rock or pop music fan, and therefore you could go less traditional, and play their favourite songs.
Plan the Wake
The reception, or the wake, is an opportunity for family and friends of the deceased to get together and mourn the passing of their loved one. This can be hosted in all kinds of venues, either at home, in a village hall or in a pub.
Often catering will be included in the price of the venue hire, however, should it not be, you can choose to either hire professional caterers or make the food yourself.