Marriage is a beautiful happening in women. The marriage begins a new journey in everyone’s life. It brings a lot of joy, excitement, and happiness but it also brings new common challenges and problems. Especially, women have to face new responsibilities, adjustment difficulties, and family issues in their life after marriage. Undoubtedly, you can say the 2nd part of life starts after the wedding. It is a different experience from early and bachelor life.
It is not necessary every newly married girl will face the following challenges. It all depends on how’s your in-law’s family and you deal with each other after getting married.
Causes of Marriage Problems That Faced by Newly Married Girls
As per my own experience and watching my surroundings, these 10 problems that girls have to face after getting married:
1. Girls Have To Leave Parents Home:
After taking birth in the parent’s home and living years with them, girls have to leave their parent’s home. This is the most difficult and first problem that a girl has to face after marriage. It is not easy to leave the parent’s home for the whole upcoming life. It is a very tough time in a woman’s life. They miss and remind their parents each and every day when she got married.
2. Adjustment Issues With In-Laws Family
Now when she has arrived at the in-law’s house, the girl has to build new relationships, adjust with the husband, father-in-law, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, cousins, nieces, nephews, and more family members. It is not easy to put herself from a comfortable zone to a new or known family environment. Girls have no worries, less work, and stress at parent’s home but now she needs to adopt new responsibilities and duties here in-laws house. That’s why a new girl has to compromise and adjust with the in-law’s family.
3. Changes in The Habits
Married women also have to change their habits such as daily work and sleeping routine, can’t show your anger, can not take major decisions alone, changes in the dress-up, loaded with jewellery and makeup. Girls have to look beautiful after marriage and stay busy all the time. Now she is no longer to say “single”.
4. Taunt For The Work That Can’t Do
So finally spending 3 to 6 months at in-law home, the next step starts with taunting and arguments. You may see this culture in every joint or small family where you live with the husband’s parents. Mostly mother-in-law taunts about the work a girl could not do such as kitchen work, home cleaning, washing clothes, sleeping more, not wearing the right clothes, wonder too much, not taking care of his parents, etc.
In some family, husband or his parents do not allow a newly-married girl to go outside the home alone or with her friends in parties and market without their permission. The women have to ask every small thing before doing it. The newly married girl has to live with restrictions and tolerate the in-law’s behaviour.
6. Dowry Demands
As we all know about the dowry system which goods and cash a girl brings with her. But some greedy families want more dowry after marriage. They tease and taunt the girls. Every day we listen to the news about the attack on girls or suicide by married girls due to dowry demand in the newspaper and tv channels. So I will suggest please don’t get married in those families who demand dowry. India reports the highest total number of dowry cases every year.
7. Domestic Violence
It also known as domestic abuse, beating, intimate partner violence in which the abuser can torture their partner verbally, physically, psychologically, emotionally, or sexually. Men admit they have mentally or physically abused their wives. The husbands try to dominate their wives after marriage. Domestic violence comes to see more frequently in low-income families or the person who takes the drug. As per UN Women estimate “35% of women worldwide have experienced physical and sexual violence”.
8. Female Foeticide
Another chapter starts in life when you do family planning. We live in a world where men dominate over women. Our society gives more preference to a boy than a girl. The thought leads to female foeticide which comes to see after marriage. Most families want their first or second kid should be a boy. So the family forced the girls to check up to see what is in their womb. If the fetus’s gender is a girl then she has to do an abortion. The Asian countries have this problem more than western countries.
9. Love and Arrange Marriage Issue
Love or Arrange, both marriage types have their own pro and cons. If you had a love marriage then you may have to face cast & religious discrimination, society and family taunts, false impressions, and money-related problems. In an arranged marriage, you have to force to live with someone whom you do not know, excessive expenditure, and in-law family looks opposition.
10. Balance in Personal and Professional Life
If you are a working woman then you will need to keep balance in your personal and professional life. This is another challenge in marriage life. You will have to wake-up early in the morning, make breakfast for the whole family, get ready for your office, and then come back to the home and start working here again. It becomes very difficult and stressful when you have to work in the office and at home as well.
How to Find Solution to Your Marriage Problems?
So a woman’s marriage life future depends on how do you deal and solve the above marriage problems. It is not just a girl problem but boys too. They both have to discuss their issues and solve them with communication.
- First of all in-law’s families should act the same behaviors as they do with their daughter and son. The newly married bride also admits that the groom’s parents are as same as her parents.
- In-law’s family needs to understand her that does not create unwanted restrictions and boundations.
- Talk with your maternal parents twice a week.
- Love and take care of the husband. Spend as much as time possible with him.
- Make a good bunding with in-law’s family members.
- Change your bad habits to good behavior.
- Learn the things you can’t do.
- Don’t get married to a greedy family or who demands dowry. Check the groom and his family’s record before building any relation with them.
In the end, these are the common marriage problems that can be handled with mutual understanding and cooperation. Do not worry about these. Just go positively and begin your new life journey. Make everything clear before marriage so that you can save and prepare yourself for further issues.
Please share after marriage experience that you have. So the bachelor girls could aware.
I wish you Happy Marriage Life!!!